Justice for Tyre. It's Personal

 

 

My heart is sad. 

 This past week, the world watched in horror as a man, a Black man, was stomped to death by police in Memphis. 

 My heart goes out to Tyre' Nichols' family and friends. May his soul rise in power. 

 However, I cannot help but to see the faces of Black men I know and love in Tyre's handsome face. I especially see the faces of two men whom I've known since they were students with my brother at The University of Cincinati over 20 years ago. These two men-- and their families-- are more family to me than some of my blood relatives. Yes, I am bold enough to say that these two men are brothers as much as Matt is to me.  

Tyre was someone's biological and/or fictive brother. He surely was someone's son. He had friends and relatives. 

 Tyre Nichols was stopped by the police for " reckless driving", and for that minor infraction he was murdered by a cop. 

 To be honest, friends, I find it hard to believe in cops.  Our Black, Brown and LGBTQ+ siblings have tried to tell mainstream White America that the very nature of the American law enforcement and corrections institutions are racist for years.  And as long as I'm being honest, I've hid behind my White privilege and defended the system. 

 I'm not hiding behind my Whiteness anymore. 

 While it is true that there are law enforcement officers who are good people, the fact is that the modern police forces are built upon years of oppressing anyone who is not White. 

 Things will never change until White people-- and I am totally including myself in this statement-- own the fact that our " law enforcement" is not and never has been equal for all. 

 How many Black men must die before things change? 

 To my Black brothers: I love you. Stay safe. 

 Kyrie elesion. 

 Sarah Beth McCarren  

 

Kate Bowler Quote # 2 Experiences over more " stuff"

 

                                            Yes, I take " piano selfies"  :) 

 Without further ado, here is today's nugget from Ms. Bowler's book:

" What a privilege it is to have stories to burn " Bowler, Chapter 4 

 As I've gotten older, I've discovered that what really " fills my cup" the most are not acquiring things, but rather sharing experiences   with people who matter to me. Yes, I'm a big purse collector -- just ask my husband-- and I always am looking to add to my home library but what I really treasure are shared experiences. 

 Thankfully, it did not take a terminal diagnosis for me to come to this realization, Brian and I have been giving each other shared experiences in the form of a road trip together for several years.  Back in 2021 we braved COVID restrictions and drove to Savannah, Georgia for a two-day urban hiking experience. 

 This year, we are celebrating both Valentine's Day and my birthday by taking a trip-for-two north to the Alabama Appalachian Foothills. We booked our first VRBO and plan to take our Hound Dog, Harry, along with us. We had to " fenagle" {this is one of Brian's favorite weird words} a few financial matters to make the trip happen for February, but it had to be done. 

 My soul has been running on empty for longer than I care to admit. A wise friend asked me what REALLY would fill my empty cup and press the reset button on my operating system."

 "Hiking in the mountains"

 " Then do it! " 

 She was not interested in hearing any of my flimsy excuses, insisting that there was no time like now to refill my cup. Of course, contrary creature that I am, {and she knows this about me} I offered all the excuses. True to form, she wasn't hearing any of them. 

Brian and I looked at a few things, made some adjustments, and booked the north Alabama mountain cabin for three nights and two-and-a-half days.  Even with the pet fee, we are saving money by taking Hound Dog with us, and he'll enjoy exploring the gorgeous woods that are several hundred feet above sea level. 

 More importantly, Brian and I are not waiting until May-- or even March {when the temps are warmer} to make this experience happen. It will happen as soon as possible-- during a week when we could clear our calendar completely for a few days. 

 Brian and I will have more " stories to burn" after this trip. After all, life is short. His cancer diagnosis-- stage 1 but scary enough-- reminded us that humans are here on earth for a finite amount of time. While our souls are eternal, our flesh, blood, bone and skin bodies eventually do reach an expiration date.   

Make the memories now, so the stories will burn for the rest of your life. The truth is: none of us know when our time on Earth might suddenly end, so honor The Creator by making memories-- memories that turn into stories. 

 No excuses accepted. 

 Peace, love, music and light....

Sarah Beth McCarren 

 

Kate Bowler Quote #1 { first in a series}

 

                                        What is REALLY important, are the PEOPLE in our lives. 

"Women can learn that their better selves can be measured in Weight Watchers points, squeeze into Kim Kardashian's waist trainers, or be enhanced by the latest shade of Mary Kay lipstick. ~Kate Bowler _ No Cure For Being Human_ Chapter 1

I'm reading Bowler's book about her battle with Stage 4 cancer. Although I am only on chapter 2, I've already had my highlighting and underlining pen working. 

Life threatening-- or in my case life altering-- medical diagnoses make one think about what is really important. 

I've suffered from terrible nerve pain in my spine for two years. While my chronic condition will not kill me, it has altered my life in many ways.

Running was a way that I would escape my troubles of the day. The treadmill was where I went to relieve my mind, body, and soul of stresses that were beyond my control. I'd don the earbuds, step on the treadmill and run a mile as fast and as hard as I could. I found comfort in getting my heart pumping quicky as I moved in time to the music on my Spotify app. I kept my posture tall and proud as I slightly altered the elevation settings to make the run more realistic. 

To be honest, I cannot run anymore. On some days, I cannot walk without pain. Thankfully, I am at the point in my treatment journey where I have several hours where there is no pain. 

I won't lie, for an athlete to be reduced to depending on a cane to walk due to pain and a weak right leg has been life-altering. 

It has taught me that I am, after all, more than my body. I had to learn that my worth as a person does not depend on how fast strong and toned I am. 

I'm scrawny from muscle mass loss. My right leg still won't get messages from my brain. And I still suffer from nerve pain at the end of every day because my small body cannot tolerate more than one pain pill daily. 

I'm still alive, and I am thankful. 

To be honest, there have been days when I felt angry at God for my physical limitations. 

Recently I was reminded that emotions like anger, shame and fear do not line up with what Scripture teaches us about God. 

God loves me, in spite of the fact that walking hurts. My physical ailments happened for reasons that are beyond my control. 

Many of us, if we live long enough, will face serious medical challenges. That is part of being human. Kate Bowler definitely learned this lesson earlier than most people. In my mid-forties, with a diagnosis that makes life literally pain full, I've had to learn this lesson, too. 

My life has been different as a chronic pain patient, but not always terrible.  I've picked up new hobbies {including playing the piano} that exercise my body, mind and soul differently.  Chronic pain has taught me to live life one day at a time. 

Amen. 

Sarah Beth McCarren  

The Mountains are calling {at least for a couple days!} and I must go!

 

                                             I love Pensacola, and it is home. But I also am a mountain gal wo craves higher elevation. This is a photo of me taken a couple of years ago at Grandfather Mountain, in Western NC . 

The mountains are calling, and I must go.”

-John Muir, Scottish naturalist and mountaineer, 1838-1914

Pensacola is home. Our chosen clan are here. We own a home here. We are happy here.

However, that does not mean that I-- an Appalachian-born woman--, does not miss Life in The Clouds. The Appalachians are part of my DNA-- a part that no amount of disgust at the sensibilities of Western Pennsylvania and eastern Ohio can shake.

I need to see higher elevations and do some hiking that requires boots and hiking sticks. Brian and I do a lot of local hiking near our home, and this is always good.

However, I am a highlander. As much as I love Life at Sea Level, I need doses of mountain life.

In addition to growing up in the ridge- and-valley portion of the Appalachian chain, my family took several summer vacation trips to western North Carolina-- mountains that are much higher {and more majestic} than where I grew up. Brian and I honeymooned in the mountains near Hendersonville, North Carolina and we've returned there since.

Lately my soul has been troubled, but I am not writing about that business. Someone I trust, love and respect pointed out to me that I need to " refill my cup". On occasion, returning to the mountains, even for a brief stay, refills my cup like nothing else.

Brian and I booked a three-day, four-night stay at a cute little VRBO cabin in the north Alabama mountains. This is a day's drive from Pensacola, and we can take our dog. A pet fee will apply, but we save money in the long run because the fee is what we would pay PER DAY for Harry's overnight boarding.

Alleluia!

In less than one month, I'll be, as Dad says in North Carolina " watching the mountains wake up" with my beloved in a private mountain cabin in the middle of nowhere.

Friends, we cannot put a price tag on experiences that " refill our cup".

Amen

Sarah Beth McCarren

Pensacola Is Home

 

                                            One big reason why I love living here.....

I'm from " somewhere up north". I cannot deny that living in Central/Northern Appalachia has shaped me. My experiences there are part of my DNA. I cannot change that fact. 

However, Northwest Florida , and especially Pensacola, has been home for more than half my life. 

Recently, there has been some news about some rampant anti-Semitism occurring in Butler County, Pennsylvania, where I was born and where some blood kin still live. 

To be honest, anti-Semitism never went away-- especially in rural counties such as where I was born. Granted, the anti-Jewish and racist rhetoric was not as bold as I remember it being when I was a child, but it was still there and often in my face. I remember working one summer for a family friend's business when the matriarch made a comment to me " at least she/he did not Jew us down. 

She said this to me, a teen employee. It was NOT okay and a very firmly told her that I am Jewish on my mother's side of my family and do not use such language in my presence again. 

Oddly enough, I kept my job and managed to earn the respect of the old woman. She might have respected the spunk I showed in standing up for myself and my mother's family. 

There was another incident in high school when I did " talk back" to a teacher wo had been spewing anti-Semitism in his classroom for weeks. I'd reached my breaking point and lashed out at him. My efforts earned me a trip to the vice-principal's office and an after school detention {leading to being benched at basketball for " insubordination".}

Whatever. I'd do it again. 

I say all this to make a point that I've never felt any anti-Semitism here in Pensacola. Here, that weird girl whose mouth got her in trouble sometimes has found a home. 

I feel confident that my beautiful multiracial nephew and niece can visit in safety and that my brother can hold his wife's hand in public and not feel threatened. 

I am in no hurry to return to western Pennsylvania/ eastern Ohio, because many of my memories there were not happy. 

I feel nothing but sadness and shame when I think about where I grew up. 

I'm safe here. I'm thriving here. This is home. 

My people are here. 

Amen. 

Sarah Beth McCarren 

" Timing" on a Steinway

 

                   There is nothing like playing a Steinway.  Photo by The Pensacola Hippie

I got to practice on this gorgeous instrument today: 

My teacher has me working on time signatures.  She asked me to practice some familiar tunes, paying special attention to the values given in each note in every measure {in other words--- slow down, Sarah Beth! }  

As much as I love my little Yamaha piano keyboard, it does not have weighted keys. I noticed as I practiced time signatures that my fingers are literally not feeling the beat. Thinking that practicing on a weighted keyboard, I asked Brian to drive me the short distance to The University of West Florida so I could practice on some weighted keys {and on an instrument with real strings!!} for an hour. 

 

 Y'all: A Steinway piano is truly a piece of art.

  I almost felt as if I were entering a sacred space and I set my messenger bag down and sat at the piano. Carefully I opened the piano drawer to expose the keys. 

 

 At first the weights felt heavy to my fingers, as a ran through some simple warm-ups I did not try to play the scales on the Steinway-- as I still am entirely too clumsy with playing one-handed scales. Instead, I warmed up with some simple pentescales that I'd memorized-- using both hands. 

 When I felt that my fingers were warmed enough, I opened my bag and took out the workbook that is showing me how to read and play time signatures properly. After I worked in that book, I switched to my " fun " book of nursery songs and played _When the Saints Go Marching In_ on repeat, letting the music-- and the timing-- enter my body and reach my soul. 

 Music heals. 

 Playing a Steinway, in one of my " happy places" just added to the joy that playing the piano brings to my life. 

 I've felt broken as of late and am grateful that music is an outlet. I am also grateful for today's chance to play the piano at UWF. Somehow, today's " timing" was also one of my past aligning with my future. 

Amen. 

Sarah Beth McCarren

Open Letter To " Butler Man"

  Hey " Butler Man" ...

We've never met, but trust me when I say that I know your type all too well. I was born in Butler County, Pennsylvania and grew up in that general area. 

I'm pissed. Furthermore, I 'm embarrassed. Sadly, having grown up Rust Belt Appalachia, I am not surprised. 

Read it. I cannot make this shit up. {and as a writer, I own an active imagination} 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/billboard-along-busy-butler-county-intersection-causing-commotion-among-community/ar-AA16e5kT?fbclid=IwAR3GHA1yRChqJVvodgB69_k-gebNWH6Pj39gz9Ew2DkwH2-_HOUJNuLcxnc

I'm from Butler County, Pennsylvania, and grew up in that general area. Many of my relatives and friends from childhood still call this area home. 

I've not been back since before COVID. To be honest, I do not think I'll ever willingly return to where I grew up. {unless for a wedding or a funeral}

I'd rather spend our precious Travel Dollars hanging out with like-minded folks at the cabin in Western North Carolina every summer than subject myself to hellish air travel only to return to a place that was not kind to me as a {minority} child.

Anti-Semitism is not new in Butler, and other rural counties that surround Pittsburgh. I heard/ saw more bigotry against Jews {Mom is Jewish} and Black people by adults I knew. {mostly friends of schoolmates} 

In the last few years, the anti-Semitism has grown worse in this part of the nation. {we all know why this happened, so I will not elaborate} 

I'l say it AGAIN for people in the back. HATE SPEECH IS   **** NOT**** PROTECTED. Furthermore, the use of a swastika is illegal.  

Perhaps sharing hate on one's property in the form of a small yard sign might constitute as " free speech". When one buys a whole damn BILLBOARD and puts the hate speech in colored lights that can be seen for MILES, this is not freedom of expression. 

Okay, " Butler Man", these are your views? Shame on you, but I am not one to tell you what to think. I cannot fix stupid, so let's agree to disagree.  Please contain such opinions either in your home or in the yard-- free from the eyes of every driver on the 422. Your words and images are offensive and dangerous. 

Ask the child of a Holocaust survivor what swastikas mean. 

I'm not old enough to have a parent who survived The Holocaust, but I AM the child of a Jewish woman who grew up in lovely Butler County, Pennsylvania. That is Mom's story to tell, but I know that being any sort of minority in your fair county made me a freak. 

Butler Man, you are surrounded by White, straight {although not as straight as you think} Christian people. My guess is that you rarely, if ever, travel south to the city. That is your loss, as Pittsburgh itself is an awesome city with much to offer. 

These are all your choices. Stay there until you die. 

But keep your dangerous images and rhetoric away from the general public. 

Butler Man, I am so done with your bullshit. 

Pensacola is home. These are my people. 

Ungratefully yours....

Sarah Elizabeth McCarren